Every mother knows this picture: your kid behaves nicely with grandmother or nanny. But when mom is around kid’s behavior transforms dramatically.
But don’t worry, this situation is quite normal.
First of all, the difference in behavior of a child with different people means that kid’s social intelligence develops normally.
There are three probable reasons for kid’s disruptive behavior around a mother.
- John Bowlby, a famous psychoanalyst, has proved that a difference in behavior is commonly found in the animal world. In the presence of parents, behavior of young animals becomes more “childish”.
- In communication with relatives and friends, we allow ourselves to relax and behave in a completely different way than around colleagues. In the same way, a small child behaves in the presence of a mother, with whom a kid feels comfortable.
- After a whole day in the kindergarten, a child accumulates a lot of tension and negativity, which spills out on mom in the evening. So it is a kid’s way to relax and do away with negative emotions.
So, kids misbehave with mothers because they feel a positive attitude and the atmosphere is quite common for them. Kids know that you love them no matter what.
Of course, we, as parents, have to look after them and prevent kids from some crazy actions. But don’t pay a lot of attention to someone’s words: “He is a calm child around me”. It’s only because your kid doesn’t trust those people.
Have you ever faced up with this situation?